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Advice and tips from Relate during the Covid-9 crisis

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COVID-19: Advice and tips for healthy relationships from Relate Derby & Southern Derbyshire

The coronavirus outbreak is leading to big changes in the way we live our everyday lives. Our relationships will be hugely important for getting us through this but self-isolation, social distancing and other concerns may also place them under added pressure.  Relate Derby and Southern Derbyshire, a specialist in relationship counselling in Derby and Derbyshire and Burton area over the past 70years, has produced advice and tips for helping your relationships stay healthy during this pandemic. 

For many people, being forced out of normal routines and habits can take its toll on our moods, and being proactive to adjust to this may not come naturally when you're worried or stressed. Give yourself plenty of credit for making small, impactful changes during exceptional circumstances.  Reducing anxiety and looking after your general mental health and wellbeing are extremely important at this uncertain time.

If you are self-isolating at home you may feel disconnected from others but there are now so many ways that you can keep in touch with friends, family and colleagues. These moments can be a time to take your mind off of current affairs. Check in on people's wellbeing but remember to have a laugh and discuss other topics too.  Get creative - make use of social media, text, instant messaging, phone and video messaging as ways of keeping connected – even in the same house!

Now that the children are off school and are being home schooled, the important thing to remember is that different children will deal with the situation in different ways. There's no 'one size fits all' solution to supporting kids through the pandemic, so make sure you have regular chats to scope how they're coping. It's also a time when we might have to cut our children (and ourselves as parents!) a bit of extra slack. Relate Derby website provides some helpful tips for supporting kids.

For couples, relationships aren't built on the expectation that you'll be spending all day, every day with that person, so give yourself a break if you're find it challenging. The key thing to remember is that for now, a new 'normal' needs to be developed so that you can both cope with being in such close quarters. 

Please visit the website of Relate Derby & Southern Derbyshire for more in depth advice and tips during this period of social-isolation.  

Getting support
•    All of Relate Derby’s services including relationship counselling, individual counselling and sex therapy are now available by telephone & via webcam using Zoom or Skype.  If you would like to book an appointment or have queries please contact us on  01332 349177 or email

 •    Relate Derby’s free Telephone Helpline (0808 178 9363) is running as usual on Tuesdays and Thursdays 10am-1pm.  Please keep an eye on our website and social media for extra opening hours over the next few weeks.

•    Gransnet is an online community for older people to connect during self-isolation.

•    Mind have put together some useful tips on coronavirus and your wellbeing.

•    Mindful have some good advice on their website for mental health and well-being. 

•    The National Domestic Abuse helpline is available for all women, concerned friends and professionals. Call 0808 2000 247 freephone 24 hours a day.

For more information about Relte Derby and Southern Derbyshire email  visit the website or call 01332 349177..